The feeling of stroking a hard cock to orgasm is what pleasure is all about! But what if you were in chastity or denial? What then. You need to redefine how you feel pleasure.
A Chastity Slave’s Observations
As a chastity slave taking part in Mistress Delia’s stroking challenge, I have had to find a way to find pleasure in the stroking although I am denied release. This has been a journey and a challenge at times, but has also been a wonderful place of growth for me as well.
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At first the stroking sessions were almost a torture, being so close to release but knowing as soon as I finished it would be back in the belt I go. But thanks to the wonderful guidance and support of Enchantrix Layla I was able to shift my thinking and instead of viewing it as torture I was able to view it as a chance to heighten my pleasure.
I think the single most important lesson learned about all of this is the mental shift I have made from orgasm or release being the primary focus of any sexual act to finding the pleasure that is in the stroking and knowing that I can enjoy more the longer I stay in that place of pre-orgasmic release. The longer I can edge myself the longer my pleasure lasts and the more intense it is. SO I no longer crave orgasm (although I do so very much look forward to my next orgasm, whenever my mistress decides that will be) but I also see the blessing and gift in the stroking.
Experiment with Different Strokes
So I have to had to find a way to ensure that the stroking sessions are as pleasurable as possible. I used to just stroke fast and hard to get to the edge but I have since found there are better ways. I have found that using those session as a time to explore my body more, what really is most enjoyable to me, is a better use of that time. I stroke slowly, sometimes long full strokes, sometimes focusing on the head, sometimes intentionally avoiding the head, etc. It is now about variety and exploration.
I also have the task of doing all stroking to videos of pussy licking, which means that I am learning to equate pleasure for myself with pleasing my Mistress. I realize that this is the true pleasure for a man, to give his woman pleasure. I believe that we all would be better lovers if as men we stopped being so obsessed with our own pleasure and instead focused on the pleasure we are giving instead.
So this combination of self exploration and a new focus on the giving of pleasure has enhanced the experience of stroking for me. The more I stroke the more I realize that it is the joy of the experience that is most important and not just the end moment of release.
Hi MsLayla, now that I have the schedule down I hope I do not become a pain with my comments. That’s certainly not my intent.
After reading your post on the Tantric cuckolding, I went back and read some more there and greatly enjoyed the post about the Tantric chastity, which is why I’m posting about it here. I found both that post and this one to be very powerful. I love the idea of being locked up (and again for me it would not be long term) and not being frustrated by it but rather using that pent up energy to please the Mistress instead. I do love to ummm…give, and the idea of doing so solely for another’s pleasure is so delicious. I do love power exchange and I think pleasing in chastity like that would only increase the assumed roles.
Very cool! It sounds like this has been a very worthwhile experience for you!! You are coming to some very wonderful realizations and better understanding of your self and your body, mind and spirit. I particularly liked the idea of the assignment of stroking to cunnilingus videos. Might have to try that a bit myself!
Keep up the great work and focused effort!! You are doing very, very well with something that sounds fairly new to you and is not an easy thing even with more experience. You are in the last quarter of the challenge. Down the homestretch so to speak! The rewards of making it all the way to the finish line are quite profound as well, so don’t lose focus now! Good luck and best wishes in your journey!
I have been in chastity for just a week now and I can’t think straight! It doesn’t seem possible that there is any pleasure in this experience. I’m committed to seeing it through, I’ve promised my Mistress to say in chastity until Valentines day. That seems like a lifetime!
Hal We spent so much time talking and sorting through your thoughts and feelings on chastity I knew you were intellectually prepared for it. I also knew that you would not be able to anticipate the emotional impact. The roller coaster of highs and lows, resolve and pleading, physical yearning is not easy to live with. It helps to be busy and it also helps to have a strong Mistress to remind you of your goals and to help you on the journey. Trust me soon you will find pleasure in different ways. Pleasure in surrender, pleasure in stroking and pleasure in what you’ve given up to please your Mistress.
What a lucky slave you have.
You know what Cole? He is a lucky slave but then again I’m a lucky Mistress too. We do have a really amazing Mistress/slave relationship.
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I didn’t think I would ever find physical pleasure again! Being locked in chastity has taught me that my pleasure comes from my Mistress’s pleasure. I’m now learning that I can enjoy my chastity so much more and still provide my Mistress the pleasure she deserves.
Nerdy you are so right that your chastity gives you the added perspective and focus you need to give your Mistress what she deserves. Your undivided attention and 100% of your passion. But that doesn’t mean you don’t get to feel physical pleasure too! The best part you are training yourself, teaching yourself control while learning new stroking techniques in chastity.