My chastity training slave Cole is coming to realize the true meaning of Chastity. Now that Ms. Delia’s Tease & Denial Challenge is over he is locked away 24/7. I asked him to reflect on his new situation.
A Male In Chastity’s Reflections
I have been in a position where I spent the last month in chastity but allowed to remove the chastity belt and stroke on a regular basis. I am now locked away and have not been permitted to remove the belt in over 2 full days. This is a very new and intense experience.
At the time I was supposed to stroke and then lock the belt back on, I had the mentality that the belt was just how I spent the time between stroking sessions. This helped me to not feel like chastity was my actual existence, but just a space filler.
During this time I was cursing the stroking because it would make me hornier and hornier and locking the belt on after a session was very hard to do. It was a small defeat in my non-submissive mentality each time the lock went back on but I still knew it was only for a short while, it would soon be off and the stroking would happen again.
Chastity Slave Becomes A Submissive
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Now everything has changed for me. I am locked up by you with nostimulation allowed. This is having a significant effect on me at two levels. The first is that it is clear that being a chastity slave truly is my place in life and not some kind of space filler. Also, I am missing the regular stimulation so much that I find myself desperate to stroke.
Before I was serving my mistress in the hope of pleasing my mistress enough to get an orgasm. I am now in a very different place where my focus is no longer on a orgasm, it is just to get the belt off and get to stroke again. I am more submissive and working harder to serve my mistress, but with a desired outcome to just get to stroke.
Amazing what a shift in perspective can do to you.
How wonderful Ms Layla, this reflection!
I know you must be quite happy with Cole’s progress,in his slave chastity training.
His change of perception and realization that his original focus (orgasm)
has shifted to that of serving you and being submissive must be so gratifying!
Congrats to Cole for his realizations and perspective change
and to you Ms Layla, for the superior slave chastity training!
Wow, MsLayla. I can’t say I am exacty jealous of Cole since I am still not keen to the idea of being locked for long period, but I do love the way he described becoming more submissive, more attentive to his Mistress’s needs. That’s exactly what to me being submissive is all about. I hope things go well for him too.
magnus Cole’s submission has been a beautiful thing to watch. I think there’s a lot to be said for having submissiveness in you. The right person can nurture and bring out your submissive nature. A person’s submissive nature can be discounted or undervalued or viewed as weak. In the right situation a submissive man’s nature is looked at as a gift, their gift of devotion and pleasing their partner. I suspect this is how you view it as well magnus.
Where do you find such well behaved slaves? I’ve clearly been looking in the wrong places!
Ms. Nicole it is all in the training. Chastity slaves need attention and care as well as a firm hand of control.
Well done blog Ms Layla, and a view at Cole’s interesting perspective.
Chastity is indeed a complex subject……..erotic while also denying any possibility of true eroticism. I think the appeal is of course about the submissive thrill of surrendering control. But in the case of 24/7 chastity, is the end worth the means? I wish I knew the answer, but in point of fact…..there may not be “one” answer but many! The answer depending on who is asked the question!
Thanks for a interesting look at this!
Mike I think you are right, chastity as a concept is global but is intensely personal to each person. Everyone has different reasons for starting and different reasons for maintaining chastity. The worth of chastity is found in the user don’t you think? For you it may be a way to show devotion to your mistress through sacrifice and suffering. For another its about control. Someone else may find it the best way to slip into their submissive persona. No matter how long chastity lasts its essential that communication and care be used both physically and emotionally. I’m in daily contact with my chastity slaves making sure their outlook is positive and they are being physically healthy.
Cole, i always enjoy your insights into this process. Thank you for continuing to allow Ms. Layla to share them with us here. Full 24/7 chastity is really a very different experience than tease and denial play where you are allowed to feel your hardness and progress through various excitement levels, only to stop before the final level is attained. i tend to think of it more as passive than active denial. IMO, the effects are more subtle and nuanced but may in fact run deeper mentally and emotionally. Be willing to sit with and observe whatever thoughts, feelings and emotions this process brings up within you, whether positive or negative and be willing to share them with your Mistress. There are no “wrong answers”!
This is your personal journey. Continue to fully embrace it and while you may not be getting what you want, “you just might find, you get what you need!” Good luck, best wishes and stay strong!!
I’ve never been in a chastity device before denied. It sounds so extreme, but the more I read of this and even this post, it makes me want to try it out with a mistress. what is the best way and place to start
Scott the first thing you need to do is think about your goals, both long and short term. Once you’ve decided what they are we can talk about starting your chastity. What type of device, how long, how you plan to deal with it emotionally and physically. We need to talk about that before you begin.
Nobody can get you set up perfectly quite like Ms. Layla!
Ms. Nicole I love chastity, all of it! Its especially important to start off correctly with the right frame of mind and goals. You also need support and a committed Mistress to help you through the tough times. I know that you are a wonderfully supportive Mistress too Ms. Nicole.
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